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You Shouldn’t Need A Reason For Not Having Kids

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This is a great read. I get that people want to ask, and sometimes they are just making conversation. However, I do wish more people were more sensitive to this subject and aware of the impact the question can have.

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I wore a maxi dress to work today. The frequency in which I wear dresses to work is about once per month. I am more of a jeans and blouse kind of girl. So on the spontaneous day that I wear a dress like I did today, people notice and sometimes talk about it in the same way they might if I showed up with a tattoo on my face. Most days I don’t mind this. Today was not one of those days.

It was mid-morning and I was chatting with a coworker about my decision to go to 7/11 last night for a glazed doughnut (or two) at 11:00 p.m. I ate the doughnuts right before bed (I had had a day, okay?) and this morning when I woke up the first thing I saw was my crumpled up 7/11 doughnut wrapper on my nightstand staring at me, shaming me…

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Author: Foxy-O

I’m a 30-something female who’s striving to be the healthiest woman I can be through diet and exercise. In early 2013 I was introduced to the world of Paleo. I completed Whole30 and had fantastic results. I had finally found something that worked for me! My blog is a jumble of my thoughts as I take the journey through my life. Somewhere for me to unleash my views, my challenges, my failures and my successes (hopefully!).

2 thoughts on “You Shouldn’t Need A Reason For Not Having Kids

  1. What a brilliantly written piece! I am 50 and I made a decision at the age of 16 never to have kids. It wasn’t a selfish decision as many pen it – it was a decision based on the fact that I prefer to contribute to life in a different way. I am actively and intensely involved in my sister’s kids lives – both financially and emotionally. I work on community projects, I campaign for PETA, I’m on the road with Greenpeace and I have never regretted my choice.
    So in the beginning when I kept on being bugged to have children – I would just say that “I can’t have kids and I prefer not to talk about it. Lets leave it at that please.”
    I can just imagine how much they filled in the blanks in their head – but for me the rule is simple… its nobody’s business but MINE and nosy people should be put in their place. I can’t have kids because I do not want to contribute to the overpopulation and strain on resources of mother earth….
    Truth be told – we as woman are NOT defined by the amount of kids we have. That type of old fashioned thinking has NO place in the modern world because they are clearly more interested in keeping women barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen. Thank goodness that we are evolving!

    • You’re right – we are not defined by the amount of kids we have. As women we are so much more, and we are fortunate enough to have the opportunity to make that choice today. I respect your decision. I know more and more couples that don’t have kids – I don’t know the reason why (as, of course, I have never asked!). It’s a very personal subject and hopefully this article helps people realize the power of the question.

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