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Why can’t I accept compliments?

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Why are accepting compliments so difficult for me? If someone tells me my hair looks nice, or my top is nice, or they like my shoes I always just brush it off. Rather than saying “thank you” i say “oh, this old thing?” or “they were only $5” or “this is my lazy hair look”. I’m always throwing something negative in my response and there is always a reason why they are wrong. I can’t ever bring myself to just say “thank you” and accept it. Sometimes it even makes me feel uncomfortable because I don’t believe it. I’m sure it is linked to my self-esteem – because I’m overweight there’s nothing good that people can truly say about me.

My husband is always telling me I’m beautiful and just the other day a fellow (super sweet) blogger told me she thought I was awesome.  In my mind I thought well, my husband says it because he has to – he wants to make me feel better about myself and the fellow blogger said it because she doesn’t know me IRL.  If she she knew me in person then maybe she wouldn’t think the same thing.  So, I ask myself, why are accepting compliments so difficult for me?

It’s a very real problem for so many of us.  People talk about how important it is to love ourselves and part of that is accepting compliments and acknowledging our worth. I’m going to make a conscious effort to say “thank you” next time someone compliments me and an even greater effort to believe it!

Here is a lighter look at the issue which made me giggle because it’s so true. Warning: this is an over the top uncensored Amy Schumer sketch – contains graphic language

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Author: Foxy-O

I’m a 30-something female who’s striving to be the healthiest woman I can be through diet and exercise. In early 2013 I was introduced to the world of Paleo. I completed Whole30 and had fantastic results. I had finally found something that worked for me! My blog is a jumble of my thoughts as I take the journey through my life. Somewhere for me to unleash my views, my challenges, my failures and my successes (hopefully!).

6 thoughts on “Why can’t I accept compliments?

  1. I enjoy complements if they seem real. What I really hate is the “Oh I love your hair today, can you work for me Friday?” I didn’t get complements for a really long time, not sure if it was because I was not to in tuned with my looks or what, but now I gladly say “thank you.” Then I make a point to complement someone on something I like on them. It feels good. Take them, give them, and enjoy them!

  2. I’m not good with compliments either.. I always feel as if they are being false. However… I’m like you – its linked to my self-esteemed so its time that we both accept that we are brilliant, awesome and women of substance… 🙂

  3. It appears that this is a lot more common that we think. I can’t handle compliments either. As Lynda said, I feel they’re false. It’s an unfortunate situation to find ourselves in. At the same time, I don’t want to be rude so I do normally say thank you, but I don’t believe the compliment. I guess time will change things for us and I suppose we should work on learning to love ourselves. 🙂

    BTW, that video was hilarious! It’s so honest, and therefore relatable. Thank you for sharing it! 😀

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