Why are accepting compliments so difficult for me? If someone tells me my hair looks nice, or my top is nice, or they like my shoes I always just brush it off. Rather than saying “thank you” i say “oh, this old thing?” or “they were only $5” or “this is my lazy hair look”. I’m always throwing something negative in my response and there is always a reason why they are wrong. I can’t ever bring myself to just say “thank you” and accept it. Sometimes it even makes me feel uncomfortable because I don’t believe it. I’m sure it is linked to my self-esteem – because I’m overweight there’s nothing good that people can truly say about me.
My husband is always telling me I’m beautiful and just the other day a fellow (super sweet) blogger told me she thought I was awesome. In my mind I thought well, my husband says it because he has to – he wants to make me feel better about myself and the fellow blogger said it because she doesn’t know me IRL. If she she knew me in person then maybe she wouldn’t think the same thing. So, I ask myself, why are accepting compliments so difficult for me?
It’s a very real problem for so many of us. People talk about how important it is to love ourselves and part of that is accepting compliments and acknowledging our worth. I’m going to make a conscious effort to say “thank you” next time someone compliments me and an even greater effort to believe it!
Here is a lighter look at the issue which made me giggle because it’s so true. Warning: this is an over the top uncensored Amy Schumer sketch – contains graphic language