Yes. That time. The time where you think about New Year’s resolutions. If you’re not thinking about it then every magazine cover you read (as you’re paying for your healthy food for Jan – we ALL eat healthy food in Jan right?!), and every person you meet will remind you to think about it.
Every year my resolution is the same. To lose weight. For as long as I can remember I’ve ‘needed’ to lose weight. Even as a kid my resolution was to lose weight. I look back at pictures and realize that actually I didn’t need to lose weight. It was all in my head. It didn’t help that the impression everyone gave was that I needed to lose weight (“you are so pretty, all you have to do is lose weight” – but that’s a rant for another time).
Anyway, getting back to my point today – I don’t know about you, but I’m sick and tired of thinking about losing weight. I know that it is something I need to do – I do want to lead a long and healthy life after all. However, it should not be the only thing I think about when I think about what I want to achieve. Health is not just about weight. Mental health is important too.
I do not want negative people in my life anymore. They make me mad, sad, stressed or all of the above. Gone are the days where I have the need to feel popular. I just want people in my life that I trust and make me happy when I’m around them. I do not want to make time anymore for people who clearly do not have time for me. I moved to Canada from another country almost 7 years ago. I have reached out again and again to ‘friends’ and I got tired of being the first to reach out so I gave it a break. It’s amazing how many people I lost contact with. Like most people, I spend most of my waking life at work – I want to enjoy whatever other time I have.
Some people say resolutions are a waste of time. You stick with it for a month or two maybe and then it’s back to the same old habits. I disagree. It’s not a waste of time to focus on areas where you can improve yourself and your life. That is what we are doing right? We believe that our life will improve if we achieve our resolution.
So think about what you want to focus on. What one thing will improve your life? What do you need to do to accomplish your resolution? Put your resolution, with the steps you need to accomplish it, somewhere where you will see it every day. We are not perfect and some days we won’t do any the steps to reach our resolution (in fact, we might even do the opposite!). However, being conscious of our resolution, and knowing what we need to do to reach our goal, will help us get there. It’s so important to make sure you know what steps you have to take to achieve your resolution.
My resolution for 2014 is to be a healthier version of me by this time next year. These are the top 10 things I need to do to get there (in no particular order):
1. Follow Paleo guidelines to nourish my body
2. Stick to my exercise program
3. Remove negative people from my life
4. Make time to spend more time with those I enjoy the company of and feel good around
5. Appreciate the things I have rather than stressing over the things I want
6. Learn to love me for me – any improvement should be a bonus
7. Realize that work should be left at work. Do not bring the stress home.
8. Do not focus on things I can’t control – focus on what I can control
9. Do not punish myself if I have a bad day – just forget about it and move on
10. Last, but not least – get more massages!
On a final note – life is too short. I’m a huge Schumacher fan and as I write this he is fighting for his life. He is a fighter and I hope he pulls through. My thoughts are with his family and friends at this very difficult time. Life can change in a split second. Don’t take any of those seconds for granted – don’t waste any of those seconds. As you hear the New Year bells chime take a breath and remember – you are alive. This is your life, your moment your second.
Happy New Year everyone!